All the best on your $5 book.

Banny.

Far-East Asian women are culturally, historically and ethnically different to that of the Pinoy people. In fact, Filipino women are not of the same ancestral or genetic line as Far-East Asian women, such as the Chinese, Korean, or even Japanese. They are considered Pacific Islanders, not Asian. Ethnically, they are a mixed race of Spanish and Malaysian blood lines that date back centuries, inter-mixing during the Spanish inquisition there. Filipino last names and surnames reflect this Spanish-origination theory although I am not sure whether or not the Filipino people identify with such a version, or for this matter, whether they even espouse any nationalistic pride whatsoever? Case in point, they have the most exported labor markets in the world, wherein, a high percentage of newly graduated college Filipinas desire to leave the country and work in foreign countries namely Western ones, instead of naturally wanting to stay in their host country, the Phillipines, in order to stimulate economic growth and prosperity; they seem to fear the future of their country.

Anyway..

It’s such a walking-on-egg-shells existence when, as an Asian-American, living in a Western country where whenever an individual of an Asian group or Asian-looking ethnic group does something outlandish or horrible, then it is without say, that collectively, the entire Asian pool of ethnicities become suspect, or are reprimanded — all in the eyes of the Western or non-Asian world. For example, ie: like when a Filipino woman dupes a gullible serviceman to marry her, then ends up murdering him or somehow takes advantage of him; her actions become identified and with her perceived ethnicity which as you, have inaccurately bunched up as “Asian”. No. This is fundamentally wrong, and damaging to the psyche of all Americans because that’s how stereotypes are formed, by violence and stupidity, rather than kindness and contribution.

Further, conversely, whenever their might be a great achievement or accomplishment done by an Asian individual or Asian-looking individual, then as well, collectively the entire Asian group benefits — which gives certain third-world Asian-looking races of less social or intellectual clout a sort of political coat-tail to ride on as they are able to take advantage of the approval, thereby exploiting certain Asian charactertistics which are not theirs to own ethnically, but do so to take advantage of for reasons of protection, status, and social climbing.

Please be aware of this, and do make the correction, though grammatically small, it’s semantically significant, while being quite embarassing at the same time (in a displaced kind of a way).

I’m quite confused with some of your statements. You said that this e-book is not meant to bash Filipina women or Filipino culture, right? But after saying this, you proceed by stating how this book could provide “some Filipino cultural behaviors that could make a Fil-Am relationship go wrong”? Well I think your premise is already confusing enough to make me NOT want to buy this book.

Let me tell you something else. Relationships start or end due to the decisions made by BOTH parties involved. Why blame Filipinas alone? Isn’t it right to mention that the other partner (the American, I suppose) also committed mistakes, hence contributing to the demise of their relationship?

Were you even able to use scientific tests or ANY kind of reliable methodology to test your claims? Once you succeed in testing your claims and proving your arguments, I might find this book more interesting. You might even convince more people to read the entire thing if your claims were based on anthropological/psychological/sociological tests or methodologies!

I hope you realize that writing this book will only create more stereotypes and false beliefs about Filipinos. I know you are trying to help, but believe me, you are not helping by spreading biased ideas about Filipino culture and behavior.

I want to ask you one last thing. If ever someone writes about failed Fil-Am relationships and tries to focus on “American cultural behaviors that we Filipinos should be prepared to accept”, would you be offended? I’ll find it funny and naive if you answer no to this question.

I hope to receive a sincere reply from you. Don’t be a coward by deleting this comment or ignoring criticisms you receive from other people.

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The best of luck though to you and your quest.

Take care

Chad